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What Is Going On With Christian Fathers? 2

I ran into a lot of backlash behind writing the original article on this topic. Not really about the things that I had to say about Cardi B and “WAP” but more about the things that I mentioned about the ministry work that fathers could be doing in this time of pandemic and distress. I did not mean to come across hard or in a demeaning way but the fact still remains that there is work that needs to be done.

In ministry we are all called to do different things in ministry that make up the entire body of Christ. We are called to all do ministry we just have to be willing to find the area that God has called us to work in. Paul told us in his first letter to the Corinthians 12:12 “For as the body is one, and hath many members, and all the members of that one body, being many, are one body: so also is Christ” This verse is important in the point that God gives us all gifts and each gfits makes up the body. The rest of the Chapter gives more detail about what the many different gifts that we can receive are. Let’s look at some other things that are going on in the world that we as a Christian body can jump into and allow God to be glorified in the efforts.

I have seen all over social media in the last couple of days riots and dismay in Illinois and Oregon. To the point where the cities that are having these issues don’t know how to anything to bring back order to their communities. Where I see that the Christian Men can help is being that Sound Mind when things are going wrong around them. I was asked on one occasion to join some friends at a protest because they stated “I know that you are level headed and you will keep us calm if things get crazy” We as Christian Fathers can be the light in these dark times. We can be help bring peace to the protest instead of being fuel to the fire. I am making a Call on tonight to my Christian Brothers and Sisters in Chicago and Portland lets stand for peace in our land. Race and agenda does not matter when we have such civil unrest. The reason is because the way business is being handled right now we are all losing and there is no victory in sight.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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What Is Going On With Christian Fathers?

In the year 2020 there has been so many crucial things going on. Many things that have gone on during this year have given Christian Fathers a chance to stand up and make a stand on things that they truly believe in. However from some of the fathers that I see on Social Media are not living up to the potential that they can rightfully live up to. I see my social media and I see Fathers struggling with things to do with all of their children and family at home because of the pandemic. Then in the United States we have Fathers not standing their ground when it comes to New Music coming on the radio (I will go in to detail in a moment). We have to show our place in the lives of our families.

When it deals with the lifestyle that we are living during this pandemic. I wonder why more of us are not being ministry minded. Why are we still trying to have ministry as usual instead of exploring the new levels that God is trying to take us to. We are in a time when we have the opportunity to have a true desert experience with God. We are able to connect with God in a way that we have never had before because the amount of free time that we have. If we open up our eyes God is giving us an opportunity to connect with him in ways that we have never done before. Here is what I suggest take out ten minutes a day and just spend that time with you and God together. For some ten minutes might be a lot of time for others ten minutes is not a challenge at all. Find your balance and spend that time with God.

That takes me to my next point. The men on my social media are going in a frenzy about this new song by Cardi B. The song is entitled “WAP” and in the song she is being super explicit about her sexual encounters. The problem that I am seeing is that Fathers are blaming the artist for writing a song that is teaching their children about sex and that it is getting to much attention. What the concern should be right now is that if fathers find the song inappropriate for their children then they should make a stand not against the artist but against what is going on in their own homes. How can we call ourselves the Men of our homes if we have a problem with music that our children are listening to but we cant make a correction in love. We have to be able to chastise our children in a way that they feel loved but know that we don’t approve of the music that is being listened to. If we really want to make a difference in their lives then stop giving the song so much attention and let it go. It will eventually die out and wont even be a concern. God has told us that we are supposed to live in this world but not be of this world. What kind of stand are you as a parent trying to make I pray that it is a Christian One.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Are Fathers Supposed To Be Their Childs Friend?

It is the Job of a father to be close enough to their child to be able to communicate with them but far enough away that they do not feel overly familiar. Now what I mean by familiar is two fold. The child belongs to you so their will be some type of familiarity. However, the child should not feel like they can talk to you in the same manner that they speak and associate with their friends. It has to be a different relationship their. I personally try to tear down the walls so that my children can feel like they can talk to me about any and everything. It is something I strive for daily but I have to watch that I am not becoming more like their friend. I have to maintain the Father relationship. When I am coming to my children and talking to them about my problems then I have sort of changed the dynamics of the relationship. They have to feel like they can talk to me about anything I don’t believe it should be the other way around.

I know that we love our children and it sometimes seems easier to be their friend than it is to be their parent, but we have to take the high road sometimes. We have to be able to tell them those hard truths even if it is something that may initially hurt their feelings. What hurts them today will make them stronger in days to come. Hebrews tells us in Chapter 12 verses 6-8 “For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.” As fathers the Bible tells us specifically that we have to give our children those hard lessons.

The love that we show our children like they are our friends is very important but there has to be a line drawn. I make sure I spend lots of personal time with each one of my children. So that they know that Daddy loves them and cares about them. We form a bond that becomes unbreakable in those times when we are not able to be together. It’s not a friendship but a fatherhood. A fatherhood that will never go away is the most important one to our children. Even better than a friend when it is done right.

On today think about what you can do as a father to strengthen your relationship with your children.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Who Is A Christian Father? 4

As we continue to talk about Who Christian Fathers really are it came to my attention that I did not properly set the stage on what a Christian Father is really supposed to be. This series has been about the different characteristics that make up a good Christian Father. Characteristics that if the father is lacking them then he is surely leading his children down a path that they should not be on.

So far we have given three different traits a Christian father should have. We have discussed the loving, teaching, and providing. With these traits to me you are building a super Christian Father. With these traits you are developing a father that is the whose who of fathers. I have begin to read a book that is written by a few professional football players. In their book they discuss that they want to be such good fathers that they want to be inducted into the “Father Hall Of Fame”. If that is the goal that is out there for anyone it should be out there for everyone.

We see Fathers all over wearing shirts, or having mugs that say #1 DAD on them. What gives the the qualifications to wear or use that type of merchandise. Are they training up their child in the way that it should go so that when it grows old that it wont depart from it. Is that father instilling in his child the Beatitudes so that they know the traits that they need in order to be considered a good person. Is that father instilling in his children The Fruits of the Spirit. These are things that allow us to be considered the #1 Dad. For with all of those things when they want to play catch we are there. When they want to have tea parties we are there. When they want to just talk we are there with the listening Ear.

So what is the Goal? What is the end state that we are trying to reach? Are we trying to enter into the “Fathers Hall of Fame”? Are we trying to be a Whose Who of Christian Fathers? Think about what your goals are as a father and work everyday at trying to reach and perfect those goals.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Who Are Christian Fathers? 3

Alright we have been haging this conversation for a few days now and God my Heavenly Father is still giving me more to give you. This topic is so deep because it talks about who we are as a Christian, it talks about who we are as fathers. To this point we have shown that Christian Fathers are ones who love. We have talked about how Christian Fathers are ones who teach their families. On today we will be talking about how Christian Fathers are ones who provides.

A Father that provides doesn’t just bring money to the table. He provides things that can’t be provided but just anyone. He provides a sense of security, he provides a sense of character, he provides a sense of well being. A Christian father provides so much for his family he can not be replaced. He has to be confident in what he provides and not let the trials of the world make him doubt what he is able to do. He can’t allow his insecurities to make him not want to provide. Paul instructed us to this in his first letter to Timothy in 5:8 “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.” So we have to understand that we are mandated to provide for our families. We are Godly mandated to provide for our families and our homes.

When I look back over my life I think back to a time when I had a true Christian Father in my life. This example was not my biological father it was one of my uncles. He provided me with somethings that I look back on now and know that he provided me with these things. He provided me with a sense of pride. He gave me this pride because he showed me if I truly wanted something that I would have to work hard to obtain it. My uncle had a few antique cars while I was growing up. He told me when I was about to go to prom that he would provide me with a chauffeur in my favorite car but he gave me some conditions. He told me that if I wanted the car that I would have to wash and shine the car before and after the prom. What gave me the since of pride was when I came and tried to wash and shine the car quickly he made me do it over and over until I got it right. He taught me a good work ethic and he provide me with a sense of work, and a sense of pride in what I was working on. I didn’t have a lot of things growing up but him providing me with that experience is something I will remember for the rest of my life.

When our fathers provide for us it incorporates the teaching that we need as well as the love that we need. Start asking yourself who you are as a Christian Father. What type of legacy are you leaving for your family. How will they look back on the things that you have done for them. Think about WHO you ARE!

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Who Are Christian Fathers? 2

We talked about this topic already and touched on the Love that Fathers share. Now we are going to continue the conversation and talk about Christian Fathers in a different light. We are going to talk about how Christian fathers are supposed to be ones who teach.

As Fathers we begin to teach ours children from an early age. We teach them how to say their names, we teach them how to walk, we teach them all kinds of things from the time they are born until the day that we die. We have to get to a point where we are teaching them specific things. Teaching them things from a direct path is very important. It begins to direct them in the way that they should go. Proverbs 22:6 says it best “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Keep teaching them even if you don’t feel like they are learning or understanding you because it will come out that they understand in time. One of my children was telling me what they thought about a situation that was going on in their life. When they were discussing the other person they seemed to understand and display all of the life lessons that I had previously taught them.

It’s even important to teach them the scriptures. If you are able to teach them scriptures at an early age they will definitely have an entire collection of scriptures to use when things get tough in their lives. Scriptures can even be entertaining you can make a game out of learning different facts from the Bible. When my 3 oldest children were little I use to ask them the original names of the 3 Hebrew boys and would give them prizes if they remembered what the names were. We even got into teaching them what the names they had meant and what the new names they were given meant. It allowed them to understand stories from the Bible and things that they meant.

So what’s the point of being a Father that teaches? That’s a very good question. Your children are learning from you no matter if you think they are or not. They are picking up different habits that you have. They are learning ways to speak and communicate even we they are past the point have actually learning how to speak. If the things that we are teaching them are good and wholesome then we will one day have good wholesome adults. So here is a thought: What are we teaching our children? What are they learning?

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Who Are Christian Fathers?

This is a topic I have battled with off and on. On if I should write about it or not. Should I do things to rock the boat or stay safe when writing about Christian Topics. I decided it was time to loosen up a little and see where it takes me in the realm of Christian Fatherhood. So here we go lets explore who a Christian father is in the eyes of A Christian Dad.

To me a Christian Father is one who loves. That may seem like a given a father is someone who of course will love his children and wife. However, it is not just as simple as loving the people that are directly connected to you but loving all people. We have a lot of things going on in the world around us that people are not seeing Christ in the things that Christians do. For when love is shown by some Christians it is only shown to people who look like them, or act like them, or dress similar ways, or even just the ones who believe what they believe. If they the person they come in contact with doesn’t fall into that category then there are times that love is not shown. This is a bad thing because as a father it is our jobs to show our children how to love. So if your child is seeing you not showing love to someone because they are not the same race as you or because they don’t have the same sexual orientation then we are doing them a disservice. We are teaching them that they don’t have to love unconditionally. We are showing them unintentionally that being prejudice is ok.

When we are dealing with love we have to make sure that the love we show to people is the same love that we receive back. It’s like the old saying goes treat others in the way that you want to be treated. I talked to one of my children and asked them “are you supposed to love everyone?” There response was music to my ears. It was not prompted or anything it was a genuine response to how they felt and believed. They told me “dad we are supposed to love everyone no matter how they look”. Then I asked “no matter how they act?” And she responded “no matter how they act people can be mean and bad sometimes but we still must love them.” She continued to say “I act bad sometimes and you guys still love me so I have to love everyone.” They got it they understood exactly what love is supposed to mean for someone at their age. How we show love to and around our children molds them into great Christians who will change the world with the Power of Love.

This is the beginning of a series on “Who is a Christian Father?” Please read a share with your friends so we can get the conversation started. I love you Guys!

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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How Should Fathers Act During COVID-19?

COVID-19 has come to the World like a force to be reckoned with. It has forced us to look at life in ways that we never thought possible. We spend so much time now trying to make sure that we are safe from a virus we cannot see; that we lose sight sometimes of things that we can see. During this time of COVID-19 I have gotten myself to a point that I can’t focus on the things that I can not control. I have to focus on the things that I can. That brings me to my topic that we will be talking about today.

As fathers in this time of pandemic we must remain strong. We have to be strong for our families and the people around us. We have to allow them to know that we are with them and are there to stand with them through this time of uncertainty. It does not matter what your personal views about what is going on across the world are you have to do what your family feels like is going to keep them the most safe. I went through moments where I did not feel as if wearing a mask was necessary. However, I pay attention to my wife and see that she feels that it is. I see the she wants the children to wear one, so to ensure that I am not causing contradiction within my home I wear a mask. It will not hurt you even if you feel like it is not necessary to put one on. What got to me was my children asking mom “why isn’t daddy wearing a mask?”. She never really had an answer for it but it made the children not want to wear it because dad isn’t. It reminded me of a lesson that Paul was teaching to the Corinthians. He was telling them that even though no meat is unclean and you can eat all of it doesn’t mean you should if it will cause your brother to fall (paraphrasing). Meaning that even if I believe that my mask is not needed and I want to walk around without one doesn’t mean I should put my children at the same risk that I am willing to take.

This though is not all that we have to be aware of. When our children or our spouses are worried about what will happen to them are they going to be able to make it through this pandemic? The best thing that I have found to do is pray with them and for them about it. We can not predict the future but we can encourage them with a life of prayer. God has the ability to comfort us in a way that an ordinary parent can not. If we are showing our children that the power of prayer can be used in any situation of fear then we are teaching them a good lesson. We are teaching them when they are worried about something that they can turn to God in prayer. Fathers now is our time more than ever. Fathers now we have a chance to do something great in the lives of our families. We are able to prepare them for a life filled with the love of Christ Jesus. We can plant seeds that will grow in their hearts for years to come. Take this time during this pandemic to do something extraordinary with your family that they will remember for ever. Be a great dad.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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What Do Fathers Want to Know?

I have been writing this blog for almost a complete month now. I am trying to find out what type of content my readers want to see. I want to know what topics they are wanting to interact with. My goal is to reach fathers who want to be Christian, who are already Christian, who are struggling with their faith. Pretty much any and every father that is out there.

I want this to become a Christian Dad movement and the only way I can make that happen is through communication with my readers. I know this is not like my normal content. I just want to see what you guys thoughts are so far. If you have read an article written by me what do you think so far? What direction do you want to see us go in?

I want to see the growth of God move through this group of believers share with me. Comment please!!

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Can Fathers Still Be Taught?

Like I have mention previously I have been a father for 11 years. It may not seem long to some but to others it is an eternity. I even had to take the abridged course because when I became one I went from 0 to 4 in a matter of “I Do”. Do I regret the experience absolutely not but it did force me to learn some things very fast. I had to become a father to children who were already graduates of the baby and toddler stage. While also going through the baby and toddler stage. So it goes back to my question can Fathers still be taught?

I personally believe that it is mandatory for us as fathers to learn new things. Even if we are not interested in learning a new skill ourselves sometimes it is necessary. Let’s talk about it a few years after I became a Dad my children got into sports. Some of the sports/events I was not very familiar with but that was not an excuse. My children liked volley ball, tennis and high jump all three I was not very familiar with. So what is a dad to do when he gets in this type of predicament? In our new 21st century digital age YouTube became my best friend. I was able to look up videos on different techniques so that I could work with my children on getting better at what they wanted to do. Since I was willing and able to do that the one who liked volleyball and high jump is doing both of them in College to this day.

That was a simple example about learning a skill so that you can interact with your child. So, what if it is something on a grander scale. What if it is something that you have to learn in order to save your child’s life. There are children that are born with all types of diseases or they develop them over time and it is our duty to learn how to take care of them. It’s our duty not to make excuses on what we can and can not do. I have heard of many fathers packing up and leaving because they no longer know how to take care of their child. They feel like the child is better off with out them in the home. In my opinion that is not a true statement. We have to be prepared to learn new things all of the time in order to make us better fathers.

I like using Eli when it comes to talking about being a father. He was a man that did not learn what to do with his own sons. They grew up and where doing all types of things that they should not have been doing. They were not following the rules that they knew they should especially with their father being the priest. However, God trusted him to get it right with Samuel. God allowed him to prepare Samuel to be the next priest because Eli’s sons were not going to live much longer. Eli had to learn from the mistakes that he had made with his own children and fix them when it came to young Samuel.

Take some time this weekend and learn something new that will benefit you and your children. Once you learn it if it is practical for your children teach it to them as well. We have to be ready to be great Christian Fathers.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad