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Fathers Tell Your Children What Makes You Proud Of Them.

I was reading an article the other day about things that children wish their fathers would have told them. Something that stood out to me was the fact that children wanted to know what made their fathers proud of them. That was something that was an interesting find to me. It was interesting because the writer shared that he didn’t want to know because he was fishing for a compliment. He wanted to know so that he could keep making his father proud.

These things are what made we write today. When your children know what makes you happy and how to pump you up then they can do them. My wife and children sometimes struggle when it comes to this. However, I blame myself for this because I don’t share enough with them about what makes me proud. I don’t share enough with them about the different things I like. This causes problems sometimes and its something I need to learn how to fix and overcome for myself.

Since I don’t share my feelings very much as a man my family suffers. Wow what a revelation that is? I can only fathom how much better things will be once I start sharing with my wife and children the things that make me proud of them. The things that they do that puts a smile on my face. They deserve to know those things and I am supposed to tell them. God even did it for Jesus when he was baptized. Matthew 3:17 says “And lo a voice from heaven, saying, This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.” If God can do it for Jesus what stops me from doing it for my family.

Think about what makes you proud of everyone that is in your home. Take some time out of your day and sit down with them and share with your family what makes you proud of them. What makes you smile, why you enjoy being their Dad.

Yours in Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Should Fathers Trust Their Judgement?

Many times fathers find themselves in a situation where they don’t know if what they are thinking is the right or wrong. We can sometimes be overwhelmed with what we feel like others want us to do. Or even what societal norms are. What we have to do though is focus on what God has spoken to us. Remember that verse in Proverbs 3 that speaks that we must “trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not on our own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him and he will direct thy path.” Its simple if we are following the will of God then the thoughts that we are having about situations in life will line up with what God is telling us.

Let me give you a real life example on when I did not put this into practice. (Because we as Christians make mistakes to) A few years back one of my children had just gotten their first car. They were driving a little to reckless for my liking and had ended up getting a few scratches on their car after I had given them a warning. I told them if they don’t correct the way they are driving then they will end up in a worse accident then what they were already in. The child did not want to listen to what I had to say. God had spoken to me and said that I should drive them back to school and leave their car at our home. Instead because I had a long day at church and wanted to sit at home and watch the Carolina Panthers play I let them leave. I didn’t want to drive the 4+ hours one way and have to turn around and drive back. Little did I know when I let them go that in a little over an hour they would be in another accident this time totaling their car. So I still ended up getting up before the Panthers game was over and going to pick her up and drive her the rest of the way to school. If I had trusted my judgement they would have never gotten in a wreck and my insurance wouldn’t have gone up. Instead I knew what God was telling me and I didn’t obey. I had even discussed it with my wife before we let her leave. So that means I made a blatant decision to disobey God.

I shared that entire story to say this. With all the time we spend in God’s presence forming our relationship we have to learn to trust that he will never fail us. As a father I made a mistake that I can never take back. As a Christian I made a mistake that I can never take back. However I can repent and ask God for forgiveness for not trusting and believing that he will lead me down the right path. If we look back to our key verse we have to trust in him more than we trust in ourselves. And he will lead us down the right path.

Fathers here is our choice for the week. Let’s trust in the Father above so when he gives us something to do that we can trust it and follow our Judgement.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Who Can Fathers Talk To?

I wrote the other day about who fathers can speak to when they are in need. Who can tell our stories to is essential to who we become as men. When we don’t get a chance to let some things out then we become bogged down with hurt and pain. We become so lost in taking care of our families and taking care of our homes that we forget to take care of ourselves. We have to find our avenue of release and be able to stick with it. We have to learn to be consistent with what ever it is. If that means that we go to counseling then be consistent with your counseling. If it means that you are going to talk to a friend set up a time and be consistent to talking with them.

It is also a good thing to do some more personal reflection. From the time that you spend communicating your feelings learn from the things that have happened to you. I can speak for me personally that with the bad experiences I have had in life I have made it my mission to learn from them and excel.

I just want to let you guys no that I am always available to talk. I am even more available to listen to what ever you may want to talk about. I am a husband, a father, a Christian, and a friend you can call on me anytime you are in need. We as men have to have someone to talk to.

Yours in Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Who Can Fathers Talk To When they Need A Listening Ear?

Many times as men we find ourselves going through life with no one to talk to. We are navigating through things that we really need advice on but we are completely lost. Who can we turn to as Fathers? Who can we turn to as Men? Is there a person on this earth that cares about what the Man is going through? A friend of mine posted a similar question on his Facebook asking about who men vent to, and the answers were disheartening to say the least. He received answers like “the wall”, “no one”, and the one that hurt the most said “get a mirror and talk to self the rest will never understand”. We as men are conditioned to believe that no one will hear us that no one will listen. Well on today I am listening. I am going to share this blog to the masses and let people all over the world read this article because I am here to listen.

I have a very good friend that I converse with about all types of issues and he does the same with me. However, there is still some things that I keep to myself and I’m sure there are things that he keeps to himself as well. My emphasis in writing this particular piece is to show love to people who don’t know that there is love out there. For men to realize that they can talk to someone other than the wall or to a mirror because there are people out there who understand. There are people out there who want to listen who care about the lives of men and what we go through.

Another huge point that was brought up in the Facebook post was that some men internalize and then just explode later. I want men out there to know that they don’t have to internalize that they can speak up and show and tell what is really going on in their lives. To show that I am willing to talk and put it all out there I will share my story. I will share my view point.

Me growing up life was different I did not have the best of every thing but my mom tried until I got to an age where I could begin to provide for myself. I had a really good work ethic growing up but because of my circumstances there are things that I did not get to achieve. I don’t blame anyone for it anymore but for a long time I did. My parents divorced when I was in second grade I remember it like it was yesterday because I spent an entire day in Ms. Taylor and Ms. Shaws class crying my eyes out because my dad was leaving. They had already been separated for a bit but on that day it hit home. Life changed from that day on for me I can remember having a job by the time I was in 6th grade sweeping up hair at Friendly City Barber Shop of Fayetteville St. they let me sweep and taught me how to shine shoes. I went searching for attention and approval from men. I needed validation because at school I was picked on at times because I didn’t have the best clothes and shoes. Times were hard it got to the point that by the time I got to High School I stressed out so bad that I had to go to the hospital. I eventually met some really good friends that I still consider friends today almost 20 years later. They are who I have been able to talk to, to vent to, to let out the things that have caused me pain inside.

This article has gotten fairly long but it has brought me to the point on doing a series about letting things out. We have to be willing to tell our story. We have to tell people who we are and what we are about. How we have the ability to grow through the struggles that we have in life. I want everyone that reads this to know that I love you. I hope that you are willing to follow this series on for the next couple of days. I pray that you interact with me and that we can start a conversation about this.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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A Father is the Spiritual Leader of His Household

Many times as fathers we get caught up in who the world wants us to be. We see the world through earthly lenses instead of spiritual ones. When we do this we find ourselves neglecting our families. We may not be neglecting them physically or financially but spiritually. All of our children deserve to know how Jesus Christ our Savior is here to lead and direct us. What fathers don’t know is it is our job to make sure our children know it. A lot of times we get lost in making sure our children appear to look good and be cool in this earthly realm. When we do that we sometimes loose track of what we look like spiritually.

A lesson that I have learned to combat that is by teaching my children that they must live with their minds on Christ Jesus. Even when we think we know something or that we have come up with a bright idea we have to trust the Lord. Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us to “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” What does that tell us, well it tells me that if I follow after God then he will lead me where I need to go. So if I am following God and he is leading me then I will be able to lead my family to where they need to be.

There will be times in your home that things may not turn out the way that you think they should. Even after you are trusting the Lord, even after you are committing everything to him. Sometimes we will still suffer and be persecuted. In a Bible Study I am doing with a close friend of mine we are discussing the Book of Job. Job was a man that was known to be right before God. He was known to be a great leader of his home and of his family. Since he was so well known and respected in the earthly realm and the spiritual realm he was tempted to turn his back on God. Through his trials he lost everything except his home, his wife, and his friends. Depending on who you ask they may tell you he lost everything except his home because his wife and friends wanted him to turn his back on God. One of the main focuses on the story was that Job maintained his integrity and his Love for God. By doing so God returned to him everything he lost.

I added the story about Job in here because he was the epitome of a spiritual leader in his home. He is the great example of a father who trusted in his love for God so much that even when everything went wrong for him he still maintained his commitment. We as spiritual leaders in our homes have to be that same example. We have to be able to look at Job and know that if we maintain our spiritual leadership in our home we will obtain favor from God. We will be able to speak what Joshua told the people when he said “But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” (Joshua 24:15c) Ask yourself these questions as you finish reading this. What will your Spiritual Legacy be with your family? How will they talk about the Lord when you are not around? What will their relationship belike with our Heavenly Father? I am here to tell you no matter if the answers are favorable or not we all still have work to do. Let’s be spiritual leaders in our homes.

Yours in Christ,

A Christian Dad