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Can Churches Teach Men To Be Husbands and Fathers?

A friend of mine from High School made a post on social media about how churches. Her thought was “If Churches would teach men how to be husbands as much as they try to teach women to be wives”. It was left as an open ended statement but I see it to be very something that is tangible to talk about. Something that I feel needs to be discussed.

In the day and age that we live in women in many cultures to include the Christian Church are groomed to be mothers, wives, and alike. However, at the same time men are not groomed on how to be fathers and husbands. They are not taught what it means to be the head of their homes. I see that all over the internet and in churches you have successful women’s ministry that are developing women to be the best that they can be. When it comes to things for men those same things are lacking. It’s hard to believe that those things are lacking being that you have so many successful men in ministry. It just seems that the focus is not for them to reach fathers and husbands but on so many other things in ministry.

My wife has said to me for so long that she enjoys churches that focus on “Inreach” more so than “Outreach”. Working on the people within the ministry more so than the ones on the outside. If some of those things were focused then we could possibly have better husbands and fathers in this world. It’s not to say that there are not some good fathers and husbands in this world because there are. We still need work and we still need lessons to be taught. I am not claiming to be the greatest father or husband by any means. I have made many mistakes in my time being both but we must work towards being better.

Let’s start a conversation on where we can go from here. What are somethings that we can do to bring ministry to husbands and fathers? How can we teach boys to truly become better men? Women are trained to be great can men do the same? Write me and tell me what you think.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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What Happens When A Wife Prays For Her Husband To Become Saved?

On more than one occasion this week this topic has been brought up. It is something that I have heard about a few times before this but never really pegged it as being important. Now I am seeing it as being some what of a big deal. I am seeing that a lot of Christian fathers are dealing with this problem and it is something that we need to get in front of before it is to late. The issue that we are going to discuss today is: “What Happens When A Wife Prays For Her Husband To Become Saved”?

On more than once this week it has been brought up to me that a mans wife prayed for them to become saved and God made it happen. The man became a Christian and started working in the church. He was finding joy that he had never experienced before because the Lord was really moving in his life. Only for all of this to happen and the wife gets upset about the husband’s new found love for Christ. She feels left out, she feels like the church has taken her place, even that the church that they attend might just be a cult. Why is this really happening? Is the wife wrong for being upset? Is the husband wrong for doing so much at the church?

Some would say that all of this is complicated but I personally don’t think that it is. I think that the wife has every right to be a little upset and the husband is not wrong for working more at the church. However I feel like there needs to be some communication done. The wife has to be able to express to her husband how she feels about his new found faith. This has to be done so that they can possibly come to a conclusion together that makes both parties happy. However we have to remember in the New Testament when dealing with the Apostles it was mentioned on more than one occasion that some of them were married. However they were only mentioned and the Bible doesn’t give much notice to them because the work that they were doing for God was more important. Jesus even said in Chapter 8 of Matthew to “Let the dead bury the dead”.

We as Christian Fathers have to understand that even when we are young in Christ we are first supposed to minister to our own homes. We are supposed to be willing to split our time between the things that are most important to us. God first family second. But let the love that you have for God increase the love that you have for your family.

Yours in Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Have Faith

Many times as Christians we find ourself in a situation where we have to learn to put all of our trust in God. I have heard multiple stories this week that remind me of the story of Job. Stories that people have told about how they lost it all. How they lost their health, their jobs, their homes, their everything and how those experiences have changed the relationship they have had with God.

All of these people I want to seek God in prayer for. I want them to be restored everything that they have lost in life and be made new. Some things are unrepayable like the lost of a love one. But the God that we serve has the ability to place someone in your life that reminds you of the person that you had once lost. I am seeing that we have to have the ability that even when we are going through those hard times that we must continue to trust in God. These times are hard because we are still humans and when things hit us personally how do we remain faithful. I listened to a man in bible study tell about how he had a heart attack while preaching and that was the beginning of the journey that God was about to take him through. That was the beginning of how God was about to change his life forever. It is like what God had to do for Gideon he had to make it so that no matter what happen the people that would hear about it would know that it was all God and had nothing to do with the man himself.

So Christian Dads here is your challenge for today. Look at things that you are experiencing in life and figure out how you can put all of your faith in God.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad