I have been inspired to write about this topic because of some conversations that I have had and some that I have seen throughout social media. I have been inspired because through these conversations I have learned a lot about perspectives that people have. Many people may think differently about this topic especially depending on where you grew up. Or even the way that you were raised yourself. So I want to say up front that this is my opinion and some beliefs that I have about the subject. Scripture will back up what I have to say and so will some cultural norms. So here goes lets dive in head first.
My thoughts behind Men being the head of the household is true to me. I feel like it has nothing to do with finances and everything to do with what the man can provide in every way. Meaning larger than the money he may bring to the table. Many times we confuse being the head with who makes more money. In this relationship that is not the case. A man can and should be the head of the household even if the woman is the primary bread winner. I believe this to be true simply from what I find in my Bible. 1 Corinthians 11:3 reads “But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.” Meaning that God had mandated that the Man is supposed to be the head. So what does that mean in the 21st Century where we are taught that every one is supposed to be equal? To me it is simple we have to love our wives so much that we are putting their needs above our own. It’s like what Ephesians 5:25 says “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” So here is what I want to say It doesn’t matter if you are broke as a joke and can’t provide financially for your wife and she got it to keep you guys going you should be doing everything else to provide the security for her.
It reminds me of a story I saw on social media. It sets the example of what I was just talking about before. It shows how when you are showing love to a woman so much that you will hold you down because you are holding her down in other ways. This couple was not set up the way that a lot of people may think it should have been the woman was making more money than the man. However like I stated they loved each other dearly. The man was the head of the relationship and the woman loved and wanted to keep him feeling good. They went out with friends and to keep the relationship strong even though he couldn’t pay she slid him her bank card before they even got out of the car. Some may ask why this matters? It matters because men are expected to be able to do certain things in a relationship and this woman understood that so she covered her man.
This is how all of this ties together through scripture and through the culture. Money does not determine who is the head of the relationship the love that you share for each other determines that. With the couple I mentioned they are still together and now he can financially support his wife but she carried him when he couldn’t. If he wasn’t doing the things to cover her during the time when he was not financially there they wouldn’t have the testimony to share today about how they are blessed. Leading your home is the communication that you have. It is the comfort that you give to your children and your spouse. We find that there is nothing like a fathers love. Malachi 4:6 says “And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse.” Fathers we have to be willing and ready to lead and be the head or God will be ready and continue to curse our land.
Fathers be the head. Not just for your children but for your wives. It is something they will always remember you for. It is something that will draw your entire family closer to God. Because like we have beat the dead horse its not about finances it is about everything else you can provide. Love, security, well-being, protection, finances all these things make up the head. Be there when it counts.
Yours In Christ,
A Christian Dad