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FAITH

Faith

Today we will be talking about the next Fruit of The Spirit. This Fruit characteristic is faith. Why is this so important to have as a characteristic well because without it it is impossible to please God. (Hebrews 11:6) Faith is something that we all need in order to become better fathers, better Christians, better husbands, just down right better people in general.

I like to use this as my example for faith. I had faith that God will give me a house. I prayed and asked for God to give me one. Not only did it happen but it happened because I had faith that it would happen. However God had to show me that faith through prayer alone would not do what I was asking it was going to take more than that. It was going to take me putting my faith in to action. I had to realize just like the rest of the characteristic of the Fruit of The Spirit it takes action. I had to put my faith into motion and go out and trust that God was going to lead me to the right places and right organizations to purchase my house through. The faith that we need is definitely expressed in Hebrews 11:1 “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for the evidence of things not seen”. We as men have to be prepared to tap into our faith. Scripture tells us that we just need a small amount of faith the size of a mustard seed and we will be able to move mountains.

So after you read this article on faith I want you to pray about how your faith can be increased. Once you have found what it will take to increase your faith do the work that it will take for it to happen in your life and start right away.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Gentleness

Gentleness

Today in our talks about the Fruit of The Spirit we will be talking about characteristic number 5. This characteristic is gentleness in the King James Version of the Bible however in other translations it is described as kindness or meekness. This is very interesting because the 8th characteristic is meekness and sometimes translated as gentleness. What makes this interesting and I had to do some digging in order for it to make sense is that they are indeed similar but with a different meaning nonetheless. I will not go to much in detail because in three more post we will be digging into meekness.

When discussing the characteristic of Gentleness we have to understand that Gentleness is an action; that is the difference. When you want to be gentle to someone you have to make an effort. It is not something that sort of just happens. While I was doing this study I ran across this analogy of an elephant who has about 40,000 muscles just in its trunk alone. With that trunk it is strong enough to pull down large tree branches but also gentle and delicate enough to pick up a blade of grass. The elephant has to make an effort to be gentle just as he has to make an effort to be strong.

Let’s now take it to us as fathers. When you are dealing with your children in a situation that would make you upset you have to make an effort to be gentle or to go off the handle. A few weeks back my youngest two children and I were coming into the house. While we were coming inside my youngest child had my cellphone that we had just purchased in March. She accidentally drops the phone face down on the porch and breaks the screen in multiple places. Instantly I get upset but I catch myself and handle the situation in a better way. I had to make an effort to be gentle with her instead of screaming at her. Which my older children had they been there would have probably completely expected me to scream. The moral is God has asked us to be gentle. He expects us to make the effort when things are not going the way that we think they should to choose gentleness over anger. I pray that whomever reads this will take a stand towards being more gentle.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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LONGSUFFERING

Longsuffering/Patience

We are now at the forth Fruit of The Spirit. To me the text seems to come to somewhat of a change of course when it gets to where we are now. The three prior to this one seemed to be more happy characteristics of the Spirit but now we are at one that takes more dedication. We are at the characteristic of “LONGSUFFERING”. In the King James Version of the Bible it is translated this way in most other translations it is simply spoken as patience. I personally don’t feel like patience gives this characteristic its full justice. I think when you use patience you are lessening the characteristic that must be built here. Let me explain why.

Longsuffering here in the text better translated from the Greek means slow tempered or slow to get angry. When I think patience I think about just waiting for something to happen or someone to give something to me. Like I patiently wait for my birthday. When I hear Longsuffering it is different in the sense that I may have to suffer through things that are not pleasant until God finds it pleasing to pull me out of it. It takes more out of you to be slow to anger than it does to just be patient.

Let’s take it to something that men can deal with and understanding Sports. Football season has just started and many of us have been waiting with anticipation for the new season to begin. However, we did not have to seek the face of God daily so that we would have the ability to make it through that endeavor to me that’s patience. On the other hand we are at work and we have this co-worker who just knows how to push all of your buttons. To the point that you sometimes get to the point where you just want to quit. Or you are truly at the point where you have to seek the face of God in order for you to be able to maintain your composure in your work environment; that is longsuffering.

Fathers this is a tough one even for me at times. I have had moments in my marriage and in my raising of my children that I have felt like I am in some longsuffering moments. Moments where I have to seek God and ask him how I am going to make it through this situation with my child. God has put this here in the text for a reason. He wants us to know that even though you may have love, joy and peace you have to have longsuffering to get to the otherside of your spiritual journey. There are going to be trails and tribulations that are going to come up in your life and its going to take every bit of your being to make it through it.

God has placed it in my Spirit to pray as I write this. Everyone who makes it to this point in the article will receive this special blessing. Lord I ask that whomever reads this writing will be granted the ability to be slow to anger. That they will accept the Characteristic of longsuffering so that they will be stronger Christians. That through this walk with Christ even though at times things get tough but you God have placed something special in them that will give them the ability to make it through those tough times. In Jesus Name I Pray Amen.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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PEACE

Let’s Talk Peace

In our talks about the different Fruits of The Spirit we have traversed through two and now we are on the third and that is Peace. When it comes to peace it was one that took a hold of me in a special way. This word like the others that we have talked about so far love and joy can have multiple meanings depending on how it is used but lets dig in.

Peace as a word is very important to me because it brings back memories from my childhood. I was a child that use to cry about everything and I mean everything; which is weird because you can’t pay me to cry now. The point though is on my mother’s mom’s side of the family at any funeral that we would attend they would always sing the Hymn “It Is Well” and before they would get to the word Peace in the song I would be in tears like crazy. It however is my mother’s favorite hymn I think to date. For me though I can listen to the same song today and it gives me just what the song says in the first line. It gives me Peace like a river. I have grown to love the song and how it has such a calming effect on things that are going on all around me.

The word Peace also brings me to the verse in Numbers 6:26 that states “The Lord lift up his countenance on you, and give you peace.” I have learned even through this verse that the Lord God we serve has the ability to bring us Peace. We have to have Peace within our lives in order for us to pull all of the other Fruits of The Spirit together. Peace is so important to me I don’t think I could live my life without it. Our homes must have Peace in order for them to function properly.

Fathers what I mean by our homes have to have peace in order for them to function is simple in theory. Without that peace within our homes there would be constant fighting and upheaval at home. When that is introduced instead of peace then we are losing the love and joy from our homes that we have already began to add. Peace allows us to be able to keep the things that have already grounded us into good Christians. We have to have the peace in our lives and on that note I must say PEACE!!!

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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JOY

Fruit of The Spirit Joy

On today we will talk about the next Fruit of the Spirit. That characteristic for today is Joy. Joy is something that we all want to fill in our lives. We all want a life filled with joy we just don’t know how to get the joy that we are looking for. To give some background on the word joy from our text it is from the Greek word “Chara” it is Strongs #5479. This word was used to express “extended favor”. So how can this help us today?

Like I mentioned before we are all striving for joy. In the book of John we are told that through Love we are able to find joy. “If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father’s commandments, and abide in his love. These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full. This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.”
‭‭John‬ ‭15:10-12‬ ‭KJV‬‬
So if we can get love in our heart then joy will remain in each and everyone of us. But with Joy things can get so much better.

So I know that someone is probably thinking how can I truly get joy if I am living in so much sin? What’s wonderful about the Word that we read is that before the Fruit of Spirit existed we have words that David wrote in Psalms 51.

“Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. Cast me not away from thy presence; and take not thy holy spirit from me. Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭51:10-12‬ ‭KJV‬‬
What this means is that if we have found ourselves in a world of sin we must ask God for forgiveness and he will us joy. Repentance will lead us to our Joy.

Fathers here is how it can help each and everyone of us with repentance we can find joy. With love we can find joy. The Joy that we have within us has the ability to be so great that it can change the way that we live our lives. Let’s Remember to live our lives with Joy involved.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Who Is A Christian Father? 4

As we continue to talk about Who Christian Fathers really are it came to my attention that I did not properly set the stage on what a Christian Father is really supposed to be. This series has been about the different characteristics that make up a good Christian Father. Characteristics that if the father is lacking them then he is surely leading his children down a path that they should not be on.

So far we have given three different traits a Christian father should have. We have discussed the loving, teaching, and providing. With these traits to me you are building a super Christian Father. With these traits you are developing a father that is the whose who of fathers. I have begin to read a book that is written by a few professional football players. In their book they discuss that they want to be such good fathers that they want to be inducted into the “Father Hall Of Fame”. If that is the goal that is out there for anyone it should be out there for everyone.

We see Fathers all over wearing shirts, or having mugs that say #1 DAD on them. What gives the the qualifications to wear or use that type of merchandise. Are they training up their child in the way that it should go so that when it grows old that it wont depart from it. Is that father instilling in his child the Beatitudes so that they know the traits that they need in order to be considered a good person. Is that father instilling in his children The Fruits of the Spirit. These are things that allow us to be considered the #1 Dad. For with all of those things when they want to play catch we are there. When they want to have tea parties we are there. When they want to just talk we are there with the listening Ear.

So what is the Goal? What is the end state that we are trying to reach? Are we trying to enter into the “Fathers Hall of Fame”? Are we trying to be a Whose Who of Christian Fathers? Think about what your goals are as a father and work everyday at trying to reach and perfect those goals.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Who Are Christian Fathers? 3

Alright we have been haging this conversation for a few days now and God my Heavenly Father is still giving me more to give you. This topic is so deep because it talks about who we are as a Christian, it talks about who we are as fathers. To this point we have shown that Christian Fathers are ones who love. We have talked about how Christian Fathers are ones who teach their families. On today we will be talking about how Christian Fathers are ones who provides.

A Father that provides doesn’t just bring money to the table. He provides things that can’t be provided but just anyone. He provides a sense of security, he provides a sense of character, he provides a sense of well being. A Christian father provides so much for his family he can not be replaced. He has to be confident in what he provides and not let the trials of the world make him doubt what he is able to do. He can’t allow his insecurities to make him not want to provide. Paul instructed us to this in his first letter to Timothy in 5:8 “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.” So we have to understand that we are mandated to provide for our families. We are Godly mandated to provide for our families and our homes.

When I look back over my life I think back to a time when I had a true Christian Father in my life. This example was not my biological father it was one of my uncles. He provided me with somethings that I look back on now and know that he provided me with these things. He provided me with a sense of pride. He gave me this pride because he showed me if I truly wanted something that I would have to work hard to obtain it. My uncle had a few antique cars while I was growing up. He told me when I was about to go to prom that he would provide me with a chauffeur in my favorite car but he gave me some conditions. He told me that if I wanted the car that I would have to wash and shine the car before and after the prom. What gave me the since of pride was when I came and tried to wash and shine the car quickly he made me do it over and over until I got it right. He taught me a good work ethic and he provide me with a sense of work, and a sense of pride in what I was working on. I didn’t have a lot of things growing up but him providing me with that experience is something I will remember for the rest of my life.

When our fathers provide for us it incorporates the teaching that we need as well as the love that we need. Start asking yourself who you are as a Christian Father. What type of legacy are you leaving for your family. How will they look back on the things that you have done for them. Think about WHO you ARE!

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Who Are Christian Fathers? 2

We talked about this topic already and touched on the Love that Fathers share. Now we are going to continue the conversation and talk about Christian Fathers in a different light. We are going to talk about how Christian fathers are supposed to be ones who teach.

As Fathers we begin to teach ours children from an early age. We teach them how to say their names, we teach them how to walk, we teach them all kinds of things from the time they are born until the day that we die. We have to get to a point where we are teaching them specific things. Teaching them things from a direct path is very important. It begins to direct them in the way that they should go. Proverbs 22:6 says it best “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Keep teaching them even if you don’t feel like they are learning or understanding you because it will come out that they understand in time. One of my children was telling me what they thought about a situation that was going on in their life. When they were discussing the other person they seemed to understand and display all of the life lessons that I had previously taught them.

It’s even important to teach them the scriptures. If you are able to teach them scriptures at an early age they will definitely have an entire collection of scriptures to use when things get tough in their lives. Scriptures can even be entertaining you can make a game out of learning different facts from the Bible. When my 3 oldest children were little I use to ask them the original names of the 3 Hebrew boys and would give them prizes if they remembered what the names were. We even got into teaching them what the names they had meant and what the new names they were given meant. It allowed them to understand stories from the Bible and things that they meant.

So what’s the point of being a Father that teaches? That’s a very good question. Your children are learning from you no matter if you think they are or not. They are picking up different habits that you have. They are learning ways to speak and communicate even we they are past the point have actually learning how to speak. If the things that we are teaching them are good and wholesome then we will one day have good wholesome adults. So here is a thought: What are we teaching our children? What are they learning?

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Who Are Christian Fathers?

This is a topic I have battled with off and on. On if I should write about it or not. Should I do things to rock the boat or stay safe when writing about Christian Topics. I decided it was time to loosen up a little and see where it takes me in the realm of Christian Fatherhood. So here we go lets explore who a Christian father is in the eyes of A Christian Dad.

To me a Christian Father is one who loves. That may seem like a given a father is someone who of course will love his children and wife. However, it is not just as simple as loving the people that are directly connected to you but loving all people. We have a lot of things going on in the world around us that people are not seeing Christ in the things that Christians do. For when love is shown by some Christians it is only shown to people who look like them, or act like them, or dress similar ways, or even just the ones who believe what they believe. If they the person they come in contact with doesn’t fall into that category then there are times that love is not shown. This is a bad thing because as a father it is our jobs to show our children how to love. So if your child is seeing you not showing love to someone because they are not the same race as you or because they don’t have the same sexual orientation then we are doing them a disservice. We are teaching them that they don’t have to love unconditionally. We are showing them unintentionally that being prejudice is ok.

When we are dealing with love we have to make sure that the love we show to people is the same love that we receive back. It’s like the old saying goes treat others in the way that you want to be treated. I talked to one of my children and asked them “are you supposed to love everyone?” There response was music to my ears. It was not prompted or anything it was a genuine response to how they felt and believed. They told me “dad we are supposed to love everyone no matter how they look”. Then I asked “no matter how they act?” And she responded “no matter how they act people can be mean and bad sometimes but we still must love them.” She continued to say “I act bad sometimes and you guys still love me so I have to love everyone.” They got it they understood exactly what love is supposed to mean for someone at their age. How we show love to and around our children molds them into great Christians who will change the world with the Power of Love.

This is the beginning of a series on “Who is a Christian Father?” Please read a share with your friends so we can get the conversation started. I love you Guys!

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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How Does Your Children See You Treat Their Mother? Part 2

After writing the first portion of “ How Does Your Children See You Treat Their Mother” I discovered it was something that many people were interested in. Males and Females alike wanted to know what needed to be done in order to set a good example for your children. Many times we as parents aren’t sure what we are doing until it is to late. When we argue or don’t treat our spouses the way that we are supposed to then our children are truly learning habits. They are learning habits that can cause detrimental problems for them in the future.

So lets look at what I feel needs to happen over the course of time to correct the damage that has already been done. Especially for the children that are older and are about to start their own families. This is going to be tough but it is essential. Apologize to your children for the things that you messed up on when they were younger. What does that do some may ask? It allows your children to know that you to are human. That you realize that you have made a mistake and have learned from that mistake. It teaches your children that even though you made the mistake you are willing to teach your children that they don’t have to make the same mistakes. That they can have a more successful marriage than you had initially. The great thing about this is because you are teaching your children how to have a better marriage you will strengthen and grow your marriage as well.

The life that we live in the eyes of our children is important. It teaches them what to expect when they get older. Lots of times it may seem that they are not listening to anything that you have to say but you are making an impact. You are giving them tools that will be able to add to their tool bag for years to come. I love my wife she is my best friend but I have not always treated her that way. I have not always shown her that she is the rock that I stand on. Men we have to set the example. Men we have to show our children that there are a certain ways that their spouses should be treated. Men we are the ones who are to mentor our family. The Bible tells us to be the leader of our households. That we should be the ones that are guiding them through the next levels of life.

I want Fathers to know that believing and trusting in God will allow them to better lead their families. I want fathers to understand that they are born with the power of love and a sound mind. Which means that they have to show the mothers of their children undying love.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad