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How Does Your Children See You Treat Their Mother? Part 2

After writing the first portion of “ How Does Your Children See You Treat Their Mother” I discovered it was something that many people were interested in. Males and Females alike wanted to know what needed to be done in order to set a good example for your children. Many times we as parents aren’t sure what we are doing until it is to late. When we argue or don’t treat our spouses the way that we are supposed to then our children are truly learning habits. They are learning habits that can cause detrimental problems for them in the future.

So lets look at what I feel needs to happen over the course of time to correct the damage that has already been done. Especially for the children that are older and are about to start their own families. This is going to be tough but it is essential. Apologize to your children for the things that you messed up on when they were younger. What does that do some may ask? It allows your children to know that you to are human. That you realize that you have made a mistake and have learned from that mistake. It teaches your children that even though you made the mistake you are willing to teach your children that they don’t have to make the same mistakes. That they can have a more successful marriage than you had initially. The great thing about this is because you are teaching your children how to have a better marriage you will strengthen and grow your marriage as well.

The life that we live in the eyes of our children is important. It teaches them what to expect when they get older. Lots of times it may seem that they are not listening to anything that you have to say but you are making an impact. You are giving them tools that will be able to add to their tool bag for years to come. I love my wife she is my best friend but I have not always treated her that way. I have not always shown her that she is the rock that I stand on. Men we have to set the example. Men we have to show our children that there are a certain ways that their spouses should be treated. Men we are the ones who are to mentor our family. The Bible tells us to be the leader of our households. That we should be the ones that are guiding them through the next levels of life.

I want Fathers to know that believing and trusting in God will allow them to better lead their families. I want fathers to understand that they are born with the power of love and a sound mind. Which means that they have to show the mothers of their children undying love.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Who Can Fathers Talk To?

I wrote the other day about who fathers can speak to when they are in need. Who can tell our stories to is essential to who we become as men. When we don’t get a chance to let some things out then we become bogged down with hurt and pain. We become so lost in taking care of our families and taking care of our homes that we forget to take care of ourselves. We have to find our avenue of release and be able to stick with it. We have to learn to be consistent with what ever it is. If that means that we go to counseling then be consistent with your counseling. If it means that you are going to talk to a friend set up a time and be consistent to talking with them.

It is also a good thing to do some more personal reflection. From the time that you spend communicating your feelings learn from the things that have happened to you. I can speak for me personally that with the bad experiences I have had in life I have made it my mission to learn from them and excel.

I just want to let you guys no that I am always available to talk. I am even more available to listen to what ever you may want to talk about. I am a husband, a father, a Christian, and a friend you can call on me anytime you are in need. We as men have to have someone to talk to.

Yours in Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Who Can Fathers Talk To When they Need A Listening Ear?

Many times as men we find ourselves going through life with no one to talk to. We are navigating through things that we really need advice on but we are completely lost. Who can we turn to as Fathers? Who can we turn to as Men? Is there a person on this earth that cares about what the Man is going through? A friend of mine posted a similar question on his Facebook asking about who men vent to, and the answers were disheartening to say the least. He received answers like “the wall”, “no one”, and the one that hurt the most said “get a mirror and talk to self the rest will never understand”. We as men are conditioned to believe that no one will hear us that no one will listen. Well on today I am listening. I am going to share this blog to the masses and let people all over the world read this article because I am here to listen.

I have a very good friend that I converse with about all types of issues and he does the same with me. However, there is still some things that I keep to myself and I’m sure there are things that he keeps to himself as well. My emphasis in writing this particular piece is to show love to people who don’t know that there is love out there. For men to realize that they can talk to someone other than the wall or to a mirror because there are people out there who understand. There are people out there who want to listen who care about the lives of men and what we go through.

Another huge point that was brought up in the Facebook post was that some men internalize and then just explode later. I want men out there to know that they don’t have to internalize that they can speak up and show and tell what is really going on in their lives. To show that I am willing to talk and put it all out there I will share my story. I will share my view point.

Me growing up life was different I did not have the best of every thing but my mom tried until I got to an age where I could begin to provide for myself. I had a really good work ethic growing up but because of my circumstances there are things that I did not get to achieve. I don’t blame anyone for it anymore but for a long time I did. My parents divorced when I was in second grade I remember it like it was yesterday because I spent an entire day in Ms. Taylor and Ms. Shaws class crying my eyes out because my dad was leaving. They had already been separated for a bit but on that day it hit home. Life changed from that day on for me I can remember having a job by the time I was in 6th grade sweeping up hair at Friendly City Barber Shop of Fayetteville St. they let me sweep and taught me how to shine shoes. I went searching for attention and approval from men. I needed validation because at school I was picked on at times because I didn’t have the best clothes and shoes. Times were hard it got to the point that by the time I got to High School I stressed out so bad that I had to go to the hospital. I eventually met some really good friends that I still consider friends today almost 20 years later. They are who I have been able to talk to, to vent to, to let out the things that have caused me pain inside.

This article has gotten fairly long but it has brought me to the point on doing a series about letting things out. We have to be willing to tell our story. We have to tell people who we are and what we are about. How we have the ability to grow through the struggles that we have in life. I want everyone that reads this to know that I love you. I hope that you are willing to follow this series on for the next couple of days. I pray that you interact with me and that we can start a conversation about this.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad