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LONGSUFFERING

Longsuffering/Patience

We are now at the forth Fruit of The Spirit. To me the text seems to come to somewhat of a change of course when it gets to where we are now. The three prior to this one seemed to be more happy characteristics of the Spirit but now we are at one that takes more dedication. We are at the characteristic of “LONGSUFFERING”. In the King James Version of the Bible it is translated this way in most other translations it is simply spoken as patience. I personally don’t feel like patience gives this characteristic its full justice. I think when you use patience you are lessening the characteristic that must be built here. Let me explain why.

Longsuffering here in the text better translated from the Greek means slow tempered or slow to get angry. When I think patience I think about just waiting for something to happen or someone to give something to me. Like I patiently wait for my birthday. When I hear Longsuffering it is different in the sense that I may have to suffer through things that are not pleasant until God finds it pleasing to pull me out of it. It takes more out of you to be slow to anger than it does to just be patient.

Let’s take it to something that men can deal with and understanding Sports. Football season has just started and many of us have been waiting with anticipation for the new season to begin. However, we did not have to seek the face of God daily so that we would have the ability to make it through that endeavor to me that’s patience. On the other hand we are at work and we have this co-worker who just knows how to push all of your buttons. To the point that you sometimes get to the point where you just want to quit. Or you are truly at the point where you have to seek the face of God in order for you to be able to maintain your composure in your work environment; that is longsuffering.

Fathers this is a tough one even for me at times. I have had moments in my marriage and in my raising of my children that I have felt like I am in some longsuffering moments. Moments where I have to seek God and ask him how I am going to make it through this situation with my child. God has put this here in the text for a reason. He wants us to know that even though you may have love, joy and peace you have to have longsuffering to get to the otherside of your spiritual journey. There are going to be trails and tribulations that are going to come up in your life and its going to take every bit of your being to make it through it.

God has placed it in my Spirit to pray as I write this. Everyone who makes it to this point in the article will receive this special blessing. Lord I ask that whomever reads this writing will be granted the ability to be slow to anger. That they will accept the Characteristic of longsuffering so that they will be stronger Christians. That through this walk with Christ even though at times things get tough but you God have placed something special in them that will give them the ability to make it through those tough times. In Jesus Name I Pray Amen.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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SHEMA

I just did a wonderful Bible Study this past week about a very important prayer. The Study was done on the prayer the SHEMA. You can find this prayer in Deuteronomy 6:4-5 it reads “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God is one Lord: And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.” This scripture was something that was prayed on a daily basis by the children of Israel. It prepared them for their day and allowed them to tone the relationship that they had with God and strengthen it for the day.

The prayer teaches us that we must Love God with everything that we have. That the love that we have for him has to come from our entire heart. This is a love that we as fathers must also have for all of our children. We must be able to have this also for our wives.

The study explains that when we are loving the Lord our God this much then it is something that is coming from everything that we have. It develops us in ministry, and it develops us as men. I feel that all of us have to have a personal prayer declaration that we pray. Something that is calling out all of the things that may get in your way throughout the day. You have to put the love of Jesus over your day and over your wife and children. The SHEMA is a great start for us as men to do this. It is something that we should teach our families to do as well. Prepare yourselves daily and pray the SHEMA

“Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God is one Lord: And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.”
‭‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭6:4-5‬ ‭KJV‬‬

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad


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Can Churches Teach Men To Be Husbands and Fathers?

A friend of mine from High School made a post on social media about how churches. Her thought was “If Churches would teach men how to be husbands as much as they try to teach women to be wives”. It was left as an open ended statement but I see it to be very something that is tangible to talk about. Something that I feel needs to be discussed.

In the day and age that we live in women in many cultures to include the Christian Church are groomed to be mothers, wives, and alike. However, at the same time men are not groomed on how to be fathers and husbands. They are not taught what it means to be the head of their homes. I see that all over the internet and in churches you have successful women’s ministry that are developing women to be the best that they can be. When it comes to things for men those same things are lacking. It’s hard to believe that those things are lacking being that you have so many successful men in ministry. It just seems that the focus is not for them to reach fathers and husbands but on so many other things in ministry.

My wife has said to me for so long that she enjoys churches that focus on “Inreach” more so than “Outreach”. Working on the people within the ministry more so than the ones on the outside. If some of those things were focused then we could possibly have better husbands and fathers in this world. It’s not to say that there are not some good fathers and husbands in this world because there are. We still need work and we still need lessons to be taught. I am not claiming to be the greatest father or husband by any means. I have made many mistakes in my time being both but we must work towards being better.

Let’s start a conversation on where we can go from here. What are somethings that we can do to bring ministry to husbands and fathers? How can we teach boys to truly become better men? Women are trained to be great can men do the same? Write me and tell me what you think.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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A Christian Dad At A Lost!!

It took me a while today to get prepared to write my post for today. I still don’t feel as if I am ready but here it goes. Many things have happened this weekend alone that have taken me back a few steps. From one of my children going off to college, to helping my sister get some life choices made, to having to deal with my younger children missing their big siblings and acting out. The weekend has been a lot and it is not even over yet.

I was overly excited to take my child off to school. Like I have mentioned in previous post children going off to college during this pandemic is a very trying experience. However, the child is at a time in their life where they have to move on so that they can grow. This particular child had a lot of hardships throughout their formative years. So to see them make it this far is nothing short of amazing and truly a blessing from God. This child will move into this new role and grow to levels that they never thought was imaginable. I am beyond excited for them. I pray daily that all the things that is for them to learn that God will place it in their path and give them success. I believe that God will make this happen

Then I have the event where I had to help my sister. This was a huge thing for me because of the things that I do already in ministry was able to touch so close to home. My children get to experience it all the time but we have never had the opportunity to touch other family members. This experience was great though because it allowed me to be able to see the true impact that I have in my community and on the people around me. God was able to show me that the things that he has called me to do have not been in vain. That the work that he has me doing for his kingdom is reaching full circle. I thank God for the ministry that he has birthed into me and I ask that he continues to allow it to grow in me.

Now it comes to the thing that really has me lost and in a bind. I have to little ones still at the house. They are really sad because they are seeming to lose siblings at home with them by the handful. So as a Father it is my job to make sure I am aware of their feelings and how I can help them to grow. Then they start acting out and doing some things that under normal circumstances would get them in a world of hurt. However knowing what I know about how they feel with everything else I wonder should I show them some grace. Should I let them know that the things they have done wrong should get them in trouble but because of their recent lost they are getting out of trouble. I love my children but with this level of destruction that they are reaching seems like it has gone to brand new heights. God I ask that you clear my mind on the things that you would have me to do and to say to my children to help them learn from this mistake. Lord Jesus continue to give me strength in this trying time. You are my King of kings and my Lord of Lords. Thank you for being my Savior.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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What Is Going On With Christian Fathers? 2

I ran into a lot of backlash behind writing the original article on this topic. Not really about the things that I had to say about Cardi B and “WAP” but more about the things that I mentioned about the ministry work that fathers could be doing in this time of pandemic and distress. I did not mean to come across hard or in a demeaning way but the fact still remains that there is work that needs to be done.

In ministry we are all called to do different things in ministry that make up the entire body of Christ. We are called to all do ministry we just have to be willing to find the area that God has called us to work in. Paul told us in his first letter to the Corinthians 12:12 “For as the body is one, and hath many members, and all the members of that one body, being many, are one body: so also is Christ” This verse is important in the point that God gives us all gifts and each gfits makes up the body. The rest of the Chapter gives more detail about what the many different gifts that we can receive are. Let’s look at some other things that are going on in the world that we as a Christian body can jump into and allow God to be glorified in the efforts.

I have seen all over social media in the last couple of days riots and dismay in Illinois and Oregon. To the point where the cities that are having these issues don’t know how to anything to bring back order to their communities. Where I see that the Christian Men can help is being that Sound Mind when things are going wrong around them. I was asked on one occasion to join some friends at a protest because they stated “I know that you are level headed and you will keep us calm if things get crazy” We as Christian Fathers can be the light in these dark times. We can be help bring peace to the protest instead of being fuel to the fire. I am making a Call on tonight to my Christian Brothers and Sisters in Chicago and Portland lets stand for peace in our land. Race and agenda does not matter when we have such civil unrest. The reason is because the way business is being handled right now we are all losing and there is no victory in sight.

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad

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Who Are Christian Fathers? 2

We talked about this topic already and touched on the Love that Fathers share. Now we are going to continue the conversation and talk about Christian Fathers in a different light. We are going to talk about how Christian fathers are supposed to be ones who teach.

As Fathers we begin to teach ours children from an early age. We teach them how to say their names, we teach them how to walk, we teach them all kinds of things from the time they are born until the day that we die. We have to get to a point where we are teaching them specific things. Teaching them things from a direct path is very important. It begins to direct them in the way that they should go. Proverbs 22:6 says it best “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Keep teaching them even if you don’t feel like they are learning or understanding you because it will come out that they understand in time. One of my children was telling me what they thought about a situation that was going on in their life. When they were discussing the other person they seemed to understand and display all of the life lessons that I had previously taught them.

It’s even important to teach them the scriptures. If you are able to teach them scriptures at an early age they will definitely have an entire collection of scriptures to use when things get tough in their lives. Scriptures can even be entertaining you can make a game out of learning different facts from the Bible. When my 3 oldest children were little I use to ask them the original names of the 3 Hebrew boys and would give them prizes if they remembered what the names were. We even got into teaching them what the names they had meant and what the new names they were given meant. It allowed them to understand stories from the Bible and things that they meant.

So what’s the point of being a Father that teaches? That’s a very good question. Your children are learning from you no matter if you think they are or not. They are picking up different habits that you have. They are learning ways to speak and communicate even we they are past the point have actually learning how to speak. If the things that we are teaching them are good and wholesome then we will one day have good wholesome adults. So here is a thought: What are we teaching our children? What are they learning?

Yours In Christ,

A Christian Dad